4 questions you can ask to declutter your commitments & build the the life you desire.Nov 16, 2019
How often do you make space for opportunities to learn and grow?
Over the last few months, I have attended multiple conferences, seminars and coaching sessions. Most recently, I attended the 5th Annual Women in White event hosted by Uniquely Niyia in Dallas, TX. It was an eventful day full of networking, panel discussions, uplifting speeches and celebrating female professionals and entrepreneurs.
Throughout the event, all I could think about was how grateful I was to have the opportunity to network with and learn from the other women in the room.
I believe minimalism is to thank for that.
Decluttering my time
Over the last couple of years I’ve been paying close attention to my use of time and my social calendar. It’s been tough to turn down invites, cancel plans, stay at home, and risk seeing my friends and family less frequently, but it is the only way I can ensure the best use of my time. These days, I am selective about how my time is spent and with whom. In doing so, I am continually aligning my use of time (and subsequently my money and attention) with my priorities.
Right now, I am focused on:
- Spending time with myself
- Building my relationships with my fiance, friends, and family
- Managing the growth the Nacho Average Fro brand
- Expanding the Visionary conference
- Personal and professional development in support of my other goals
It’s a short list, but attempting to do all of this while working full-time, sleeping, eating and dreaming about exercise can be overwhelming.
The cure is of course to declutter.
Over the last couple of year’s, I’ve had to ask myself tough questions:
- How does this expense of time move you closer to/further from your goals?
- Do you want to be here right now?
- What do you need right now to move closer to your goals?
- What will you have to change/remove to create space?
Those questions removed lunch and dinner outings with coworkers, television time, chilling with bae when I know I have stuff to do, chatting with friends just to fill time, and other purposeless outings scheduled solely for the sake of having something to do.
And that is what brought me to and created time for Women in White.
What I learned
At this event, I learned about building community and the power of reaping and sowing from Jeannette King of Fearless Millennial. The most poignant statement she made was that sometimes it is not our money or our time that needs to be sowed, it is our story. Each of us has a story that deserves to be told and in doing so, we will create community and uplift others who share the same struggles and challenges. I felt that deep in my spirit.
During the panel discussion, I learned about the stories of Laron Chadwick, Jenishia Crockett, and Shalah Turner, each of whom now have a thriving business after leaving corporate america. I actually wept listening to their stories and hearing what prompted each of them to take such a bold leap.
After much anticipation, we heard from the honorees, Veda Loca and Krissy Johnson -Myles, who spoke about blazing a path in their respective arenas. Vida Loca is a radio veteran and 1 of only 2 women in the nation to lead their own broadcast. Krissy Johnson-Myles shines as the only self-funded minority grocery store owner in the nation.
As a new side-hustler, I constantly feel that I have so much to learn about how to build and market a business, growing an audience/client base and stepping out on faith to claim my goals. Because of this event, I took home actionable nuggets to help me move forward in my journey. I am grateful to each and every woman who participated and shared their experience.
Tell me what’s next!
Interested in learning tactics for decluttering your time or social calendar? Let me know in the comments below.